Butt or gut?

In the last few years I seem to have developed a body shape that is problematic.

I didn't begin life with this odd, blobish shape, but seems I will end it looking like a mutilated Jet Puff marshmallow. Sort of oozy, squishy, bulging here and flat there.

I remember looking at my mother and thinking lady, you have let yourself go. It was the unkind thought of someone who thought they would forever look like an 18 year old. Yeah right. I have lived to regret those words because now, apparently, I have let myself go. Or more like it, my body went there all by itself without my consent!

But I am not alone. This morphing shape is not a problem unique to me. It seems my same aged worldwide sisters are for the most part in one of two camps. Too much butt or too much gut. Both present fashion problems.

I personally have grown so resentful of pants that dig into my gut, that make huge, painful gouges, that restrict my movements as I go through the day. I am so sick and tired of this that I have resorted to Value Village plumber pants. It is not attractive. But I have the all gut, no butt body. If my pants are large enough to not dig into my stomach, they fall off, since I have no butt. I schlepp around in skater boy pants, without the large boxer underwear looming up over the waistband. No, my apparel, and how it hangs dangerously close to sliding off my backside gets the response, from the kid, "Whoa! Mom! Too much visual!"

Hub said the other day, when did you become the woman who wears those pants. When? When I became the woman who owns this gut! He is thinking I should wear suspenders as watching my pants and what they may do at any moment gives him anxiety.

My figure is annoyingly tapered. My upper half is at least 2 sizes larger than the lower. I have huge shoulders, thick waist, thinner hips, no butt. Picture a tube of toothpaste. Picture trying to put a dress on a pig. A dress on a pig with suspenders.

I will not apologize for my pants! I have no one to impress. My hair is graying, my eyesight is pretty lousy, and if I want to wear pants that don't bite my gut, then by Gordon that's what I'm going to do! Just don't drop over unannounced or you'll see more than you bargained for. But at least I'm comfortable!

Germain Greer said as women age they make the choice between their face and their butt.

Running, dieting, all good for the butt, hard on the face. Eating lustily, moving slowly, great for the face, hard on the butt.

No mention of gut though.

You can always try the mumu or kaftan?

"I used to have an hourglass figure but now my sands of time have fallen"
Actually I never have had an hourglass figure mores thr pity but I can empathize .  Gotta be comfortable for sure..whats that slogan? Life is easier in comfortable clothes  too true dont we all know life is hard enough already
I wouldnt apologize for the clothes I wear if they make life easier..!

I wish I could transplant my gut fat to my butt, so that my pants would stay up.

I was just thinking of this today. I think my over all shape is still ok (but I could be delusional! ) but the 10 pounds I gain every time someone or something important in my life passes away. These 2 years have wreaked havoc on my body and I do not recognise myself in the mirror any more. Sigh, not sure how to put it right again. I am at an age it is tough, even though I know how. I guess I don't really care enough, but I care enough to be embarrassed about it.
I am not the tube of toothpaste you talk about Uno, unless you have been squeezing it in the middle!!

Authentic, I agree! It's like one day the pant manufacturers went crazy and quit making pants that fit. I have been temped to phone a blue jean company and ask to speak to the guy in charge of making pants. He needs to get his head screwed on straight!

BUT...I have discovered something. You know how you see plumbers and other guys with their pants sliding off, a large slice of butt crack showing and you think, how on earth can they not know their pants are falling off?

The truth is they do know. They have big guts, no butts and they can't keep their pants on either. They DO know you can see half their backside. But you get so sick and tired of yoinking up your britches over and over that you just let them slide. That's when you discover something. They don't actually fall all the way down. Something, not your belt, not your suspenders, but something, prevents that last little slip down to the ankles.

I often walk around here in pants that are clearly tempting fate. They threaten to, at any moment, go whooshing off. But they don't. They reach a spot and stop. If someone yanked on them or I made a sudden move, they would come off. But if you just trudge along as normal, they hang in there.

This is what plumber butt guys have learned. No point hiking them up, they just slide back down, may as well let them slide since they aren't going anywhere after a certain point. It's the rest of us who think things will go wrong, but the plumber butt guy knows better. IT's amazing the wisdom that comes with age, and droopy pants.

All this butt talk reminds me of the song "Big Bottoms" by Spinal Tap.

"Talk about mudflaps"
"My gals got 'em"

Yes I do. Yes, my man loves 'em. [Thank fully  ]

toybarons wrote:All this butt talk reminds me of the song "Big Bottoms" by Spinal Tap.

"Talk about mudflaps"
"My gals got 'em"

Yes I do. Yes, my man loves 'em. [Thank fully  ]

Or maybe Sir Mix-a-lot?

I like big butts and I can not lie
You other brothers can't deny
When a girls walks in with an itty bitty waist and a round thing in your face you get SPRUNG.

Or perhaps Queen

Fat Bottom Girls You Make the Rocking World Go Round!

Maybe even Myka???

Walks in to the room
Looks like a big balloon
Big girl, you are beautiful!

Lots of people like a lady with curves! Granted 2 of the 3 singers were gay but the point stands!

Pollywog wrote:

toybarons wrote:All this butt talk reminds me of the song "Big Bottoms" by Spinal Tap.

"Talk about mudflaps"
"My gals got 'em"

Yes I do. Yes, my man loves 'em. [Thank fully  ]

Or maybe Sir Mix-a-lot?

I like big butts and I can not lie
You other brothers can't deny
When a girls walks in with an itty bitty waist and a round thing in your face you get SPRUNG.

Or perhaps Queen

Fat Bottom Girls You Make the Rocking World Go Round!

Maybe even Myka???

Walks in to the room
Looks like a big balloon
Big girl, you are beautiful!

Lots of people like a lady with curves! Granted 2 of the 3 singers were gay but the point stands!

I miss Freddie. Such a great singer, performer.

 ..now I think I have heard it all !  

uno....Why can't they make pants that fit anymore? If you get them big enough for the waist ( envision pear shape) the legs

are so wide, you think your swimming in them. Why is it, that stores sell out of bigger blouses and slacks "first" but don't order

anymore? They must know how many they are selling? Would be nice if everyone was thin and looked great, but we aren't.

Good Old Fields in Armstrong "used" to sell really good slacks, for various shapes and sizes. Then before they closed they

changed. Thought all women had tiny figures.   Trouble is, when stress hits, up goes the weight. Then when you lose

it, you still see a very fat person in the mirror???? Why is that?

Maybe you could take up designing women's slacks instead of houses? Lol. We would all love you for that.

Pants don't fit me either and are uncomfortable. That is why I wear bib alls (overalls) at every opportunity. Long bib alls for winter, short bib alls for summer, fancy bib alls...or a dress for work. Dresses are always comfy.

As a guy I have read this thread with interest, as I a guy I am almost smart enough to go read the thread about the decline of bees with out making a comment.......

BCKev, I don't think anyone has been banned from this site. But an unfortunate remark from yourself might make you the first. You don't want a group of poorly clad farm ladies calling for your head on a plate!

Yes, BCKev, you go read about bees. Stay safe, my friend. From us, not the bees. 

Some of us -have it all -lol I now live in track pants that have no fear of being run in... Unless there is a commotion at the barn!

bckev wrote:As a guy I have read this thread with interest, as I a guy I am almost smart enough to go read the thread about the decline of bees with out making a comment.......

I have had a weight problem all my life. Been large, have lost, put it back on, went overboard, lost it again, on again. Honestly, I think I have heard most comments, negative, well meaning, nasty, supportive from male & female alike.

I'm at that stage in life where I accept people have their opinions how they see a large person. All I ask is for people to simply treat me as they would anyone else they meet in their life. Remember, we meet all shapes & sizes & colors of people all the time. We don't find them all attractive but we still treat them respectfully as we would like them to treat us. Fat people are no different. It's all we ask.

I am a big girl, but I never seem to get the negative comments that other fat women receive. But then, I have great self-confidence and a don't-mess-with-me vibe, so maybe they just don't dare. Lol

For what it is worth sexy starts with the eyes,smiles and being comfortable in your skin, body size and shape doesn't have anything to do with it.

bckev wrote:For what it is worth sexy starts with the eyes,smiles and being comfortable in your skin, body size and shape doesn't have anything to do with it.

Then hot damn, am I sexy!!

Me too! Me too! (jumping up and down while grasping pants)

I have never met Uno, met Authenticfarm once and know Toybarons pretty well. But even before I met you, I knew you were all beautiful by your acute senses of humor...(all different) and mostly by your intelligence.

I find smarts to be the most attractive part of a person.

uno wrote:Me too! Me too! (jumping up and down while grasping pants)

That is a great turn on for a guy, a woman jumping up and down and her pants falling down. Keep up the good work.

I don't care, if it happens it happens, smiling. Nothing wrong with big butts and big waists or bellies. It's what's inside that counts, our spirits!!

Fat bottom girls, you make this world go round!! Have a beautiful day, CynthiaM.

Meh, I've always been a fatty,
I'm fine with it now, it used to bother me as a kid/teen/young adult.
I've been making all my own clothes for the past 30 years or so as nothing has ever fit me straight from a store (it always needed altered somehow)

If someone doesn't like how I look .... they can suck it, in my opinion they're the ones missing out if they are judging whether I'd be an adequate friend/mate/worker what have you......I'm way past caring at this point.
I'm having an awesome life regardless of anyone's shallow opinion.
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it has always irritated me the way people comment on other people's appearance when they first meet you again, as in "oh you look good, you must have lost some weight!" it always makes me wonder so if I (or someone else ) has gained weight would they still comment?
Growing up with critical family members I have always made it a point to stay away from personal comments about people's shape at any time, I mean if you are going to critically analyze people and comment on how much/how little they have gained since you saw them last I think that's pretty shallow and judgmental!! And makes a point of it really mattering when the ONLY thing that should matter is how they're doing/feeling/coping.