Not that I'm prone to tangents, but here it goes.
From second grade through graduation, I spent my life picked on and ridiculed, and though what I went through was terrible, there are so many people who have gone through worse. Regardless, I have long said just because someone has/had it worse than you, doesn't mean you didn't get the worst of your situation, doesn't make what you went/are going through any less anything.
For the fourth (fifth? sixth?) time this year, I got to hear the morning news say another victim has claimed their own life due to bullying, due to inescapable ridicule they did not have the tools to stand up to. From the articles, the parents weren't much help, dealt with things by telling him it's just words, go to bed, move on, buck up, get over it. That parenting method works sometimes in some bullying situations, just as going to the cops does in others, being restrictive and so on. I don't agree with the parents handling of the situation, but I don't have to, and I will never know the entire surroundings of said parental outlook. No matter what, their child is dead, and if they have any regret or blame to burden, they feel it now.
Something is wrong, damn wrong today. Children aren't told no or given boundries in the home and thus they don't have them at school; they are raised in an instant gratification society where everything is done to them and they share every stupid little detail of their life on facebook instead of in a diary with a two-bit lock on it. No one talks anymore. They spend their lives with their heads buried in stupid smart phones, entrenched on google and written expression which is done in rndmly tpd lettrs lol omg wtf that makes no sense and that many students can't even put down using a pen and paper and yet the school systems are debating removing writing from school because it's 'no longer required.' Some schools require students to have a facebook account and, sorry, but that is not the school system's decision.
In my opinion, facebook needs a rule that says "You must be this old to ride this ride." Parental consent be damned.
When I was bullied, I went home and told my Mom I was sick so I could hide in my room where no one could get me. And no one did. I listened to the radio, watched TV and played Nintendo; I went outside and played with my dog. Today, children in my exact position end up on facebook to talk to friends who tear them to shreds, share pictures of them, make fun and continue on; they receive texts on their phone reminding them that they're an insignificant loser even though they're not. They may or may not have understanding family that go to the schools who say they'll do stuff and never do. Some families who are financially able will pack up their children and move cross country. Other parents tell their kids to buck up, grow a hard skin and get over it, and some even promote violence.
Bullying resulting in a suicide, self harm, school shooting or murder is a CRIME. Bullying needs to be a cop-calling offense, with a two strike rule. You can be called on twice before the next call is called harassment, harassment is a chargable offense, and it continues to go up from there. Bullying is easy to prove, especially today with this ridiculous availability of cell phones to record what's going on. A simple voice recording app set to record in a backpack will catch it all -- facebook is an absolutely undeniable paper trail, print screen.
Society is going downhill and fast. People are shooting up naval yards and workplaces and the government is calling it a gun control issue. How about we deal with the issue on the forefront: Mental health. People don't have coping skills, empathy is now a skill you learn instead of one you're born with. We want to tell our children to be who you are, whatever and however that is, when school and society and fashion damns you if you don't conform and there are no repercussions to the parties who create victims and who's actions result in dead children and destroyed lives. I keep saying, you can tell where the world is going by the way people treat animals and how they look at their food -- as that has changed, so has society. Many just assume everything will be there and will be there when we need it, few people live like my grandparents, even my Mom did, putting by just in case, planning and looked at what may happen and the results of the actions you take now, just in case.
Something has to change. Children NEED to stop dying because no one is taking responsibility. This "No tolerance" on bullying is bullshit, because schools ignore it. Schools ignore it because if they start making reports, they start getting graded by governing bodies on the troubles their school is having and faculty start changing, programs get implemented and people actually have to start doing their paperwork and answering to someone. School is meant to train children to get used to a 9-5 life in the work force and whether I agree with that practice or not is irrelevant. What is relevant is that it's now become a concentration camp for children, one they can't escape from, one where parents and kids alike just can't figure out the tools to stop it.
Something is wrong here. Something is terribly. terribly wrong.
From second grade through graduation, I spent my life picked on and ridiculed, and though what I went through was terrible, there are so many people who have gone through worse. Regardless, I have long said just because someone has/had it worse than you, doesn't mean you didn't get the worst of your situation, doesn't make what you went/are going through any less anything.
For the fourth (fifth? sixth?) time this year, I got to hear the morning news say another victim has claimed their own life due to bullying, due to inescapable ridicule they did not have the tools to stand up to. From the articles, the parents weren't much help, dealt with things by telling him it's just words, go to bed, move on, buck up, get over it. That parenting method works sometimes in some bullying situations, just as going to the cops does in others, being restrictive and so on. I don't agree with the parents handling of the situation, but I don't have to, and I will never know the entire surroundings of said parental outlook. No matter what, their child is dead, and if they have any regret or blame to burden, they feel it now.
Something is wrong, damn wrong today. Children aren't told no or given boundries in the home and thus they don't have them at school; they are raised in an instant gratification society where everything is done to them and they share every stupid little detail of their life on facebook instead of in a diary with a two-bit lock on it. No one talks anymore. They spend their lives with their heads buried in stupid smart phones, entrenched on google and written expression which is done in rndmly tpd lettrs lol omg wtf that makes no sense and that many students can't even put down using a pen and paper and yet the school systems are debating removing writing from school because it's 'no longer required.' Some schools require students to have a facebook account and, sorry, but that is not the school system's decision.
In my opinion, facebook needs a rule that says "You must be this old to ride this ride." Parental consent be damned.
When I was bullied, I went home and told my Mom I was sick so I could hide in my room where no one could get me. And no one did. I listened to the radio, watched TV and played Nintendo; I went outside and played with my dog. Today, children in my exact position end up on facebook to talk to friends who tear them to shreds, share pictures of them, make fun and continue on; they receive texts on their phone reminding them that they're an insignificant loser even though they're not. They may or may not have understanding family that go to the schools who say they'll do stuff and never do. Some families who are financially able will pack up their children and move cross country. Other parents tell their kids to buck up, grow a hard skin and get over it, and some even promote violence.
Bullying resulting in a suicide, self harm, school shooting or murder is a CRIME. Bullying needs to be a cop-calling offense, with a two strike rule. You can be called on twice before the next call is called harassment, harassment is a chargable offense, and it continues to go up from there. Bullying is easy to prove, especially today with this ridiculous availability of cell phones to record what's going on. A simple voice recording app set to record in a backpack will catch it all -- facebook is an absolutely undeniable paper trail, print screen.
Society is going downhill and fast. People are shooting up naval yards and workplaces and the government is calling it a gun control issue. How about we deal with the issue on the forefront: Mental health. People don't have coping skills, empathy is now a skill you learn instead of one you're born with. We want to tell our children to be who you are, whatever and however that is, when school and society and fashion damns you if you don't conform and there are no repercussions to the parties who create victims and who's actions result in dead children and destroyed lives. I keep saying, you can tell where the world is going by the way people treat animals and how they look at their food -- as that has changed, so has society. Many just assume everything will be there and will be there when we need it, few people live like my grandparents, even my Mom did, putting by just in case, planning and looked at what may happen and the results of the actions you take now, just in case.
Something has to change. Children NEED to stop dying because no one is taking responsibility. This "No tolerance" on bullying is bullshit, because schools ignore it. Schools ignore it because if they start making reports, they start getting graded by governing bodies on the troubles their school is having and faculty start changing, programs get implemented and people actually have to start doing their paperwork and answering to someone. School is meant to train children to get used to a 9-5 life in the work force and whether I agree with that practice or not is irrelevant. What is relevant is that it's now become a concentration camp for children, one they can't escape from, one where parents and kids alike just can't figure out the tools to stop it.
Something is wrong here. Something is terribly. terribly wrong.