Living in a time warp

Sadly my dad passed away. It was just yesterday, but already seems like it happened so long ago. I suppose that's because we have been so busy making arrangements.

He was diagnosed with lung cancer last February, had chemo through the summer and after a bit of a rough go for a couple of week after Christmas has been doing great. Saturday he and my brother were out and he bought him self a new drill. Last week he was up the ladder taking down Christmas lights.

Mom and I went to visit relative in SK for the weekend. Dad stayed home. He was never a traveller. My brother called him Sunday morning and he was great. He called at lunch and got no answer so went to check on him. He had collapsed in the kitchen and seem to be having a seizure. He was unresponsive after that. Mom and I drove home as fast as we could on some really bad road conditions. It took us over an hour extra to get home.

Together we decided to have him moved to palliative care at 8:30 Sunday night. He passed at 1:30 a.m. Monday.

I woke up today convinced it must be Wednesday, but my kids convinced me I was a day ahead but it still feels like many days have passed.

Must be normal, but it sure feels surreal.

My condolences. I cannot even imagine what you feel, but I will soon know. Both my parents are over 80.

My sympathies on your loss.

DC chick my sympathies to you and your family.
It is Such a shock to lose a family member so suddenly like that, even when you know it is imminent
I met your Dad at Milo last May. He made the coolest chairs

thank you for all the kind words.

Miry, Dad had such a great time at Milo last year and was looking forward to it this year. I don't think he got anymore chairs made, but I know he made saddle stands to sell. I haven't booked a table yet though. Don't know if I want to do it alone...

Sorry to hear of your loss

So sorry to hear of your loss.

Haveing lost my father to cancer as well I have a good idea as to what you are feeling ,it still seems like I should be able to call / see him today ( my father ) and yet he's been gone for over ten years already .My condolences for your loss ......time does heal .

No matter how prepared you are, you're never prepared, and what you're feeling now is shock. Like a bad, out-of-body experience.

I had the same surreal experience when my dad died. It's like I could not believe it. I just could not believe it.

I am sorry for this, sorry for your mom, sorry for you. But I am grateful, as horrible as this sounds, that your dad's last days were home, with family, living his life, buying drills and being happy. It does not feel like it now but years from now you will count it as a blessing.

But for now your job is to grieve. We grieve with you and for you.

My heart felt condolences. I lost my mother 5 years ago due to heart failure caused by COPD. Thanksfully we all made our after life plans well in advance, so when she died, there was no having to deal with final preparations. It helped because I felt so weirded out. The feelings you are having will eventually become manageable as time passing. Don't let yourself feel embarsed by them. I know I would feel fine one moment, then something would remind me of mom and I would feel weird, cry. It's all part of the process. It's healthy to grive.

My deepest sympathies to you and your family.

Sigh, these things are never easy, and it is nice to have places to let our feelings out, our thoughts are with you at this sad time. Still, try to find some happiness in this day, think of the good times with this Father of yours, CynthiaM.

Awh, DC. How did I not see this post yesterday!

My most sincere of condolences; I send love your way. You will do what you feel is best for you and the memory of your father concerning the sale of saddle stands. I would love to be there with you/for you, however I just don't know how I'd get there. There is no consoling for a loss, but I am here for a neutral party if you need to just talk to an unbiased ear. You know how to get in touch with me.

I wish you all the best in these hard times, and hope you find strength in family and friends, near and far.

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I am sorry for this, sorry for your mom, sorry for you. But I am grateful, as horrible as this sounds, that your dad's last days were home, with family, living his life, buying drills and being happy. It does not feel like it now but years from now you will count it as a blessing.

I was thinking this same thing. My Grandmother was active and living on her own right up to the end. She collapsed one morning and was gone that evening. As my cousin (who is a Doctor and sees these things day in and day out) said, "It was a good death." We took great comfort in that she had watched her own mother convalesce in a bed for years and we all knew she hadn't wanted that for herself.

I am sorry for your loss.



Mighty was the fallen, meet was his ending. - J.R.R. Tolkien

Sorry for your loss, you will have some tough days ahead of you.

I went threw the same thing with my dad, he passed away Dec 8th at the age of 64 from lung cancer. He had been in the hospital for weeks and just wanted to go home. He got his wish and passed away 5 days after going home.

Sorry for your loss DC, your dad was such a great man, I am sure he will be missed emensly by you and everyone he knew.
And remember you will never be alone at a sale, you have a great supporting "chicken family" to help you out.

Very sorry for your loss. I lost my Dad not quite 2 years ago. It does get easier, but I don't miss him or love him any less.
We had some time, the quickness of this loss will take some time to sink in. Make sure and let yourself go through the whole process.
My thoughts are with you.

Oh DC my condolences. I lost my mom about 5 yrs ago and it wasn't expected. It takes alot of time to deal with your emotions and take that time. I still can't listen to certain songs with out getting all teary eyed because they remind me of my mom. Your dad sounds like he was an amazing person so it was a loss to everybody.

Sending my deepest sympathy to you DCHhick. I had to think too, reading your post, that your Dad had recovered some of the life taken when undergoing chemo, which I know can be so debilitating. I hope he found some satisfaction and small joy at being out and about tool-shopping, just as I hope your days of hard grieving and sorrow are brief, and you can soon remember the good times with your Dad, and smile in time.