Fat Ewe, you need a trainer to train you? Take my Horsey Daughter...please.
She is a horse nazi. One of those people who knows it all and is not afraid to smack you with a riding crop to ensure that you do it HER way and do it right!
At the top of her dictator like rules is HORSES ARE NOT PETS! To which I respond, yes they are, as I kiss my baby on the nose while she pins her ears flat back at me. This earned me a smack with a switch. THAT HORSE IS GIVING YOU ATTITUDE! DO NOT STAND FOR THAT! The horse is standing perfectly still while I kiss its nose, when it would much rather be eating..so what if it's ears are pinned, she doesn't do anything. WAIT FOR IT!
Horsey Daughter is of the opinion that unlike dogs who seem eager to please, a horse is not born with the desire to be your hand servant. A horse has its own ideas about its place in the world, and in a horse's mind, that place would be to be the boss of you. SO if you do not act like a boss and deserve to BE the boss, you won't be. A horse will usurp your position as boss/leader if you allow it. This is true. My baby has trained me to scrath it where it itches. She walks over, puts her nose on an itchy spot and I scratch. Horse is boss. I lose.
Horsey Daughter will take all the fun out of owning a horse. What you see as affectionate nuzzling she will see as pushy invasion of space. While you welcome the love, she will freak out and none of her horses DARE approach closer than a set distance and Gordon forbid that they EVER lean a nose in towards a pocket. This is verbotten!
While your horse might be so comfortable with your presence that it continues to graze, ass towards you, as you approach with bridle in hand...or maybe even your horse will decide to leave the area when it sees the bridle, Horsey Daughter's horses do not do that. Hell no! When she arrives in their pen they STOP whatever they are doing and then she stands still with an expectant look on her face and the horse comes to her. And if, GOrdon forbid, she has to go get one, it has learned better than to run off! THey all try that...once. My baby, she heads out when I arrive and Horsey Daughter yells at me that this is my own fault because I am a flaming horse idiot. It's true. I am.
Horsey Daughter would ask you what your end goal is with your horses? Do you want a well mannered, well broke horse who knows the rules and whom you can trust? Then she would say the number one problem you have to overcome is YOURSELF and your views on horse keeping. Then she would tell you that whatever views you have now are wrong, hers are right, listen close and don't screw up. She is, after all, one of those opinionated horse people who knows everything.
But (horsey mom brag alert) one of her horses was recently borrowed by a woman who has advancing MS. Her legs are in an advanced stage of seizure and she has metal braces on both legs. She does ride. BUt getting on a horse is a long, involved, tedious process in which the horse CANNOT MOVE A MUSCLE. Most horses, when presented with someone whose movements are very different from the normal movements of a human, react with some nervousness and skittishness and will step away or jig. Not Horsey Daughter's horses. And for this reason, the fact that her horses are trained to STAND RIGHT WHERE YOU SET THEM, is why her horse was borrowed for this lady to ride. It takes her, literally, 10 minutes to heave and drag herself onto a horse, then someone has to remove the braces from her legs and get her feet in stirrups. It is an extreme procedure and requires a very, very co-operative horse. If Horsey Daughter has trained the horse...it will not move a foot until expressly asked to do so. SO, there might be something of value to what horse nazi Daughter has to say. But I don't listen, and my baby horse is bad.
If you would like her email address so that she can knock all the joy right out of this for you, let me know, I'll hook you up.